Dear Ibby, I’m a girl and I can only come from anal. Is there a way to transfer that to my vagina? My ass is getting really sore.

Dear Ibby, I’m a girl and I can only come from anal. Is there a way to transfer that to my vagina? My ass is getting really sore.

SexNovember 04, 2015 By Isabelle Kohn

Butt of course (sorry, had to).

First of all, relax — ain't nothing wrong with not being able to orgasm vaginally (only about a quarter of women can). The fact that you can come with your butt is amazing and relatively rare. Some people are just built for anal sex, and you’re one of the few, the proud, the anal Marines. High five.

For chicks, anal can be highly pleasurable, but there are varying theories as to why. The prevailing one seems to be that in some people, the nerves that innervate their butts also supply their reproductive organs, so that stimulating one leads to pleasure in the other. This is good news for you, because that means that correct stimulation of your vagina or clitoris could produce an anal orgasm on its own, or that you can learn to come via those structures when your ass needs a hiatus and a relaxing beach vacation in Cabo.

To do that, learn how to stimulate your own G-spot and clitoris, either with a partner or on your own. Experiment with different types of touch and learn what feels pleasurable. Take your time with this; it’s not a race (unless it is, in which case, can I have your number?). If you’re having trouble, use lube and do a bunch of Kegels over the course of a few days or weeks; it really helps your G-spot and clit engorge with blood so that they’re easier to find and stimulate.

Once you’ve found out what feels good vaginally, couple G-spot and clit stimulation with anal sex. Over time, you’ll learn to associate anal pleasure with vaginal pleasure, and this can increase orgasmic possibility. For women, orgasm seldom comes without mental flourishes, so feel free to fantasize and imagine the sensation of vaginal orgasm while you’re getting fucked. Eventually, you'll train your body to manifest those sensations where you want them.

Most importantly, talk to your partner about what’s going on and make sure he/she knows you’re teaching yourself to come vaginally and that they need to be understanding of that and responsive to your needs. Hope your butt feels better.

And now, for your enjoyment, here's some shit you never knew about chicks and anal:
Via Slate.com

1

Since 1992, the percentage of women aged 20-24 who say they've tried anal sex has doubled to 40 percent.

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The percentage of women who’ve had anal in the last year is 20 percent.

3

94 percent of women who received anal sex in their last encounter said they reached orgasm — a higher rate of orgasm than was reported by women who had vaginal intercourse or received oral sex.

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Women who are able to orgasm vaginally or clitorally are more likely to try anal with a partner.

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Partnered women ages 30-39 have the highest rates of anal sex annually.

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While anal is surprisingly popular and intensely pleasurable for some, it’s not for everyone. Some people report intense pain, nausea and fever following anal; so if you find yourself feeling sick afterward, it’s a surefire sign that you should rethink your methods or that anal isn’t for you.