Dear Ibby, Is there a male G-Spot?

Dear Ibby, Is there a male G-Spot?

SexJuly 16, 2014

Why yes there is. And it’s way easier to find than the female one. Meet the prostate, everyone! It’s a small, chestnut-sized gland about two inches up inside his bum, on the frontal wall.

Most guys think prostate massage is taboo, but I have two things to say about that. First, there are over 4,000 nerve endings in the male rectum, and many of them supply the prostate. That makes having an orgasm while getting his prostate massaged just sly of life-changing. Think about it; stimulating your cock to get off feels awesome, right? But what about if you could double, or triple the pleasure of that? You can, LOL.

Second, the taboo thing can be kind of hot. Trying something that’s “wrong” or "socially unacceptable" can make things spicier because of the addition of novelty and spontaneity into the bedroom (or truck bed, fuck it). Open your mind, and your butt.

That being said, here’s how to do it: it’s easiest for you if he’s lying on his back with his knees bent. Start with a gentle massage around his perineum (place between the balls and the butthole) that says “I respect you, therefore I’m not going straight for the prostate.” Use the soft pad of your index finger and be gentle. When he’s relaxed, lube your finger up and let it gently brush across the surface of his anus. Repeat this move several times, each time increasing the pressure slightly.

When you’re both comfortable, push your finger in slowly until you feel a hard bump on the front wall. Great job, you found it!  Here’s a medal. You can gently thrust on it, swirl your finger around, or experiment with something else. The key is to give his body a chance to respond to it and to make sure he’s comfortable.

Once you’ve both gotten the hang of it, pay some attention to his dick while you continue with the prostate business. If you can suck him off at the same time or use some combination of your body parts to make him come, you deserve to rule a small country.  If you guys are worried about the dreaded poop, put on a latex glove for a nice, science-y feel.

Last thing I have to say about this:  this is definitely something that merits a conversation before it happens so before you use your mouth to get him off while you finger his butt, use it to see if that’s okay with him.