Kink apps make kinky sex easier to find than ever before

Kink apps make kinky sex easier to find than ever before

SexDecember 14, 2017 By Lindsey Kline

Ever flipped through thousands of profiles on Tinder, searching desperately for that special someone to have filthy, freaky sex with?

Ever wanted to turn up the heat with your long-term lover, but you can’t tell a nipple clamp from a chip clip?

Then thank your lucky stars for kink apps like Whiplr, BDSM Master, KNKI and KinkD, which offer everything from kinky dating to BDSM tutorials.

Before modern tech could facilitate, meeting pervy playmates or learning their playtime strategies wasn’t easy. The kink community is a relatively tight-knit social circle. To gain entry, you’d need to know someone on the inside. They might invite you to a sex party or encourage you to join their sex club membership.

This isn’t particularly appealing to someone just looking to dip their toes in the water of exotic sex acts. The average naughty little lady that gets aroused reading “50 Shades of Grey” isn’t ready to storm through the doors of a play party, rip off her clothes and have her bare ass paddled while dozens of strangers watch.

More likely, she’d rather explore her erotic desires within the comfort of her own private space. That’s where the apps come in.

Whiplr, for example, has been called “Tinder in leather chaps.” Users are matched with potential mates not only based on location, but also based on sexuality, fetishes and preferred body type.

Whiplr’s profile creation is extremely flexible. Because it doesn’t require a linked Facebook account, users have more anonymity. Sexuality is adjustable, too. If you’re a woman who’s mostly into dudes (but made out with a couple chicks in college), you can express that effortlessly, saying you’re 80 percent into men and 20 percent into women. Then, choose from an impressive list of kink categories, add in your age, height, and a couple photos, and start connecting with other sexually adventurous people.

BDSM Master, on the other hand, assumes you’ve already found your kinky partner. The app will introduce you to the popular practices of bondage, discipline, dominance and submission — including suggesting “punishments,”parameters and safewords. Finally, you can learn how to whip your boyfriend’s ass without hitting him in the balls.

Newbies to the BDSM scene once had to attend in-person classes to learn these priceless lessons. Now, those too shy for group learning can master these sexy skills wherever they’re most comfortable, be it their bedroom or their rental sex dungeon.

However, the kink community isn’t necessarily embracing the tech that makes the social circle so much more accessible. BDSM is about community and education, many say, and meeting people who actually know what the hell they’re doing. Inexperienced sexploration might explain why over the last few years, there’s been a sharp increase in sex-related injuries.

App instructions just aren’t good enough, they criticize, unless you want to end up in the hospital, begging the doctor to break the chastity belt off your swollen dick before it explodes.

But not everyone has the luxury of being able to attend play parties or sex dungeons. What about all those sexually-twisted politicians who need an outlet but can’t risk being seen in a kink space? Or those poor bastards in Farmville, North Carolina, who live 500 miles from the nearest rope-bondage school? These unfortunate folks need something like an app to keep them connected to the kink scene.

Yet for now, a much more popular practice than utilizing these ever-developing kink apps is turning to Fetlife, a social networking site for kinksters and fetishists. Although not necessarily a dating app, it can connect perverts to other perverts all the same. It’s also not unheard of for sexual deviants to use mainstream sites like Tinder or OKCupid, and clearly identify as kinky within their profile.

Today, the kink community is oozing into every corner of society, whether it’s literature, fashion or technology. We vanilla folk are lucky to have kinky sex more accessible than ever before — so seize the opportunity. The BDSM bandwagon is one worth jumping on.