If you're a man, and you've met Katie, chances are you've fallen for her, but she hasn't fallen for you. She's got a way of doing that, and we wanted to find out why. We sat down with her and asked her what it's like to be a lady player, and what it takes.
What is it about you that men find so irresistible?
I make myself pretty available to everybody. I have a lot of really random interests and I put myself in a million different situations. At some point I’m going to connect with somebody.
You’re pretty confident. Does that have anything to do with it?
Up until recently, I've never been broken up with. When I was, it was a severe blow to my ego, but prior to that, I've never been turned down. So yeah, I’m pretty confident. But it has more to do with the fact that I got married young. And I started cheating on my husband when I was 20, so I had nothing to lose. It’s not so much confidence as that I don't tolerate shit. It's that whole attitude.
How do you grab a guy’s attention and keep it?
Try to find commonalities. Actually be genuine. In general, when you connect with someone on something, especially when it feels a little unusual, it feels special. Guys tend fall for me because I'm not gonna have that obsession thing with them. I don't really feel the need to try. When you don't try, you can just sit back and let you speak for you. That's intriguing for people.
Are you genuinely interested in most of the people that you date? Or are you toying with them?
I think there's always a genuine interest in the beginning, but that tends to fade pretty quickly because they don’t always meet my standards. I'll probably toy with them for most of the relationship whether it's two dates or two weeks. But everyone in the beginning has a chance, although I know in my heart of hearts most of the time if I really have a crush on someone it's just out of boredom or wanting to explore something. I keep them around when I think there's something useful about them.
What do you do in the bedroom that keeps guys hooked?
Unfortunately, what I think hooks guys in the bedroom isn't what's the best thing for you. In my younger years, I was super wild, there’s no position I wouldn’t do and I checked my insecurities at the door. I'd rock their goddamn world, but now I'm a total prude. Because I'm looking for something different, more long term.
What do you mean by rocking their world?
Just be super ambitious and get on top and don't let them take every second of the role. You're just as big a part of sex as they are. Equally make changes whether it's changing positions, styles or taking initiative.
What's the craziest thing a guy has ever done for you?
I've had guys fly me out across the country to see them. I had a boyfriend once, who was worried that I was broke and in New York City and wasn't having the best time, so he left $3,000 under my bed so I could put it in my savings account and didn't have to struggle or worry.
What do you like about being a player?
I like it because you have everything to gain and nothing to lose. You have all the options on the table and you can access anything you want, but you're not in a position where you're falling for every person head over heels. You don't really get hurt as much.
What's your best move for picking up guys?
I give them the eye, and start some kind of genuine conversation. I don't really have a line, I just act like a real person. I try to find a quality about them I really like. If I know one little thing about them, I'm like, “Hey, tell me about that,” because I genuinely want to know what's up with whatever unique thing they're into.
Give us your best player tips.
Read books and listen to music. Become an actual person. It doesn’t matter if you’re the hottest chick ever or just so-so. Just be yourself and be comfortable, and all types of guys will notice you.