Contrary to popular belief, BDSM is not a catalyst for mental debasement …

Three reasons why you should shackle up with the current rise in popularity of BDSM.

Cool, calm and collected

Contrary to popular belief, BDSM is not a catalyst for mental debasement — that’s what your parents are for. In fact, studies show that people who participate in kink score better than their non-kink counterparts when it comes to mental health exams. Furthermore, a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found BDSM-friendly participants were less neurotic, more open, more aware of and sensitive to rejection, more secure in their relationships and had a better overall well-being. Who needs a therapist when you have self-humiliation?

Communication

What do whipping, caning and paddling all have in common? No, it’s not community brother night at Theta Phi. These acts all require levels of trust and communication. Research has shown that couples who engage in bedroom kink have a more open and healthy relationship, addressing needs and wants that might not otherwise come to the forefront unless pressed by an inflammatory situation or challenging life event. So the next time you introduce the “safe word” Rindfleischetikettierungsüberwachungsaufgabenübertragung-sgesetz, remember effective communication is the goal.

Increased intimacy

There’s an inherent risk in being tied to your antique bedframe and spattered with melted candle wax. Don’t worry — your toasted nipples weren’t burnt in vain. A study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior claimed that people who participated in BDSM activities that went well, expressed a higher level of closeness with their partner; this in conjunction with an increased display in caring and affection seen in consensual BDSM activities. Like your high school coach always said, “no pain, no gain.” Or maybe it was “some people aren’t meant to play sports.”