Hope you have a GPS and some binoculars, because they involve some tracking down …
Dude, I feel you.
There's something so hot about a guy who's comfortable enough with his sexuality to confidently express his desires, even if those desires happen to be the same as yours (rubbing his face in dick). Plus, two men fucking, at least to me, is pretty much the most masculine thing in the world, and as a straight chick who just really loves men, that's … that's … yeah. I'm pregnant just thinking about it. On a less graphic level, many women find bi men to be more sensitive and understanding than Certified Grade A Organic Straight Men™ too, which is also beyond attractive. So I get you.
As to where to find them? That's a little harder. Because while bi guys are definitely out there, not a lot of them are out.
Recent research shows that just over a quarter of bisexual people are publicly open about their sexuality. And, unluckily for you, the vast majority of those bisexuals are women who enjoy a greater societal acceptance of their attraction to both genders than men do.
Even if a man does come out as bisexual, he's unlikely to be accepted for it as easily as he would if he were plain old gay, as many people still hold the mistaken beliefs that bisexuality is a gateway drug for homosexuality, that bi men can't be faithful, or that bi men will inevitably leave them for the opposite gender. That's why these days, some sources estimate there are probably more bi people in the closet hiding who they are than there are gay people.
That pretty much explains why male bisexuality is statistically not prevalent. A recent 2016 survey found that only 2 percent of men identify as bi. I suck at math, but I know that's not a lot. Interestingly though, a slightly higher number of straight men report having same-sex encounters (2.8 percent) however, so there are also heterosexual-identifying guys who may harbor some interested in homo stuff, but would not necessarily classify their interest as "bisexuality." If that doesn't make sense to you, please direct your attention to the Kinsey Scale.
These numbers are relevant for you, because the relative scarcity of bi men will influence how you seek them out.
Because they're rare beasts (at least publicly), it's unlikely you'll magically stumble across one in the typical places you'd find a straight guy (bar, Tinder, party, etc.) … let alone one you like.
Instead, be proactive and take it upon yourself to find them through broadcasting your interest in them in places they're likely to see it.
This is where online dating comes in.
On online dating platforms like Tinder, 3ndr or OkCupid, you can specify the kind of sexuality you're looking for and have an algorithm sort potential fuck-toys for you so that the only results that come up are men who identify as bi.
Also, make it clear in your profile that you're looking for a bi guy, and describe what kind of relationship you're looking for with him.
I'm not sure if you're into a monogamous dating thing, a one-time hook up, a polyamorous relationship or something else, but figure out what you want and make it known. The more honestly you can broadcast your needs and desires, the more likely you are to come across someone who's organically as interested in the same type of arrangement that you are.
Just remember to be patient with it, though. Like I said earlier, there aren't a ton of out bi guys, so just know that it might take a little longer to find what you're looking for. Or, if miracles exist, your forthrightness with your attraction to bi men may inspire them to come out, at least to you. Who knows? You don't until you try.
If you're not an online dating person, you can always try to ingratiate yourself into your local LGBT community and try to socialize your way to whatever bi men may exist there, although I kind of discourage that if all you're looking for is romantic involvement. Instead, I'd find an LGBT cause or organization you're passionate about and volunteer or work with them, and let that be your primary focus. You're bound to come across more bi men in that sphere than in your average American social circle, but remember that communities like that aren't dating pools and shouldn't be treated as such.
If that's not an option or you're not interested in volunteering and shit, do this: Just accept that your quest may be long and arduous. So, instead of saving yourself for a magical bi creature, date the kinds of guys you're attracted to regardless of their sexuality. Then, when you get to a place in your relationship where it's comfortable and appropriate to bring these kinds of desires up, do it and see how the guy reacts.
He may be like "Yeah, that's not me," which is perfectly fine.
He may also be like, "Wow, really? I've always been a little bi but never really did anything about it."
Or, best case scenario: "I was fucking dudes before I met you, so let's have 300 MMF threesomes right now."
Regardless of how these future dates respond to your honesty about your attraction, it tells you whether they're right for you or not. If bisexuality is a deal-breaker for you, any guy that's 100 percent hetero might not be the guy for you … but you won't find out whether he is until you ask.
Happy hunting.
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