I think this is a phenomenal idea; why haven’t you thought of it before? Only problem is, your boyfriend is probably going to need some convincing. The first thing you need to do is find out how he feels about threesomes in general. Ask him if he’d ever consider a two guy, one girl situation, and under what circumstances. If he’s totally opposed to the idea, then sorry, you’re not gonna be getting double stuffed like an Oreo any time soon. But if he’s either apathetic or into it; we’ve got a case.

Let him know that the thought of having a threesome with him and another guy is insanely hot to you, and that you think about it a lot. You can avoid bruising his fragile man-ego by telling him that you’d never consider doing it with anyone else other than him, because you trust him and feel comfortable expressing your desires to him. Be very careful about not specifying one particular friend you have in mind; he might take that as you having a thing for the friend and are just using the idea of a threesome as a cover so you can hit that. If he specifically asks you who you’d want to do it with, mention his friend as well as a few different people. Okay, now that you got that part out of the way, there’s the friend that you have to deal with.

Same story with this guy; find out how he feels about threesomes in general, then about two guy, one girl threesomes. If he responds positively to the idea, plant the idea in his head by saying something like “____(insert boyfriend’s name) and I have been talking about it a lot…[bite your lip, look into his eyes]…might be fun [sly grin].” Great job; you’ve planted the idea in his head. Now you have to wait and see what he does with it.

One more thing to think about; will doing it affect their friendship? Make sure you pick a friend that’ll be cool afterwards. Before you do it, make sure you set up some boundaries  and expectations with your boyfriend  about who is going to stick what in who. High five.

So now, depending on how into it they both are, you can either set it up, or wait for it to happen organically. And I can tell you that 9 times out of 10, setting it up is awkward and creates a slew of expectations that are impossible to meet. If you let it  happen on its own, it’ll be so, so much hotter. If I were you, I’d get good and drunk, then pull your (consenting) friend into a room with you and your boyfriend, and start making out with him. Then, assume the Chinese finger-trap position, and everything will magically fall into place…aka your vagina.

Lastly, threesomes are awesome if you’re in a good place in your relationship. If you trust and know each other enough, it’ll spice things up and make you appreciate your relationship. But if you’re in a shitty place, threesomes usually tear couples apart. So before you make any kind of move, think about what kind of relationship you have and if adding a second penis to the mix will bring you closer or make shit weird.